How to feel beautiful at any age? A popular psychologist is about why we are always unhappy with ourselves and how this can be overcome.
When a woman becomes her own slave, trying every day to become slimmer and more beautiful, she simply does not believe in herself. She does not love and does not accept herself enough to stop comparing herself to the whole world and to do what she likes.
Stop adjusting to society
Stop forever improving and correcting yourself for the sake of others’ ratings. Stop looking at yourself through the eyes of society, friends, neighbors and distant relatives. I’ll tell you a little secret: nobody cares what the other person’s coat and hairdo are. Life becomes an order of magnitude easier when there is a clear understanding that if someone does not like you, then this is not your problem, but someone else’s.
Be yourself
A woman can learn to dress beautifully, move smoothly, but with close communication, the mask will still fall, and the falsity will become obvious. To become truly attractive, you need to learn to accept yourself, love your personality, and not blindly copy someone’s style.
Do not look for flaws in appearance
Sometimes female self-doubt is fixed in a certain part of the body. For example, such a thought haunts: In general I’m fine if it weren’t for that creepy nose. A woman saves money, goes to do rhinoplasty and about six months later she walks with imaginary self-confidence.
Sooner or later, the magical effect disappears, and suddenly it turns out that the ears are protruding and the chest is small. There’s nothing more to be proud of. Let me remind you that it is impossible to solve psychological problems with the help of a gym and even a plastic surgeon.
Do not turn self-care into torture
A woman who kills on a treadmill and spends hours in a beauty salon spends all her time and energy to look well-groomed – does not live. She is driven by anxiety, which pushes to correct every fictional flaw in her appearance. I do not deny, some sybarites-aesthetes are crazy about beauty, therefore they are engaged in self-care and sports. They like the process itself, they enjoy it and do not suffer for the sake of spectacular pictures on Instagram.
Recognize that shopaholism is a psychological problem
Many women are treated with shopping just like others with wine, cakes and hours of sitting in social networks. But a new bag even the most luxurious and beautiful will not relieve self-doubt or a feeling of loneliness. What is the difference, new shoes or not, if again everyone is to blame, and dissatisfaction with life is “written” on the face?
Always work on self-esteem in your life
Even if you are objectively incomparable, your face fully complies with the principle of the “golden section”, and your figure is impeccable, everyone should admire everyone if you are not confident in yourself – this does not work.
